Relationship advice from men to men always seems to hint at untold secrets, and maybe it’s a female gossipy thing but I just can’t help wanting to know the stories that lie behind the advice!
Example:
Guys, Protect Your Hearts…I learned early on from a friend that the best way to avoid an affair is to stay far away from any situations that put you at risk for one.
So says Clever Dude, warning his fellow attached males against putting themselves in the way of extra-marital temptation.
Temptation? Yeah baby, it’s everywhere, for the hormone-driven young male. The lonely neighbour lady who needs a little help around the house… The friendly female co-worker who joins you for a round at the pub… The tennis babe without a parter for doubles…
Clever Dude’s point, if I read him correctly, is that “the situation where others might question my intentions” is a situation that’s fraught with danger for the male who’s trying desperately to stay faithful.
Proximity breeds attraction, and that way lies the dragons of temptation.
I can’t argue with him on that point, as far as it goes. How many of us women have enjoyed a platonic relationship with a male pal, only to have it get all complicated by physical attraction and significant glances? Too often it does end very badly indeed.
But some of my deepest, most enduring friendships are with men — some of them are the same guys I hung out with way back in high school, when the earth’s crust was first beginning to cool.
Should I have dropped the friendship, or should they, when one or the other of us hooked up in a long-term relationship?
In an ideal world, I would say — and I’d hope it could happen more often in this very imperfect oversexed real world, too — we should be able to establish and maintain our friendships based on mutual interests and enjoyment of each other’s company… not merely on whether we’re both of the same gender.
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Well, it’s glad to see someone reading that post other than spammers who pick up on some keywords and post a comment about a certain blue pill.
You hit the nail on the head. I’m still finding that it’s hard for a guy to keep thinking the right way when none of his friends or coworkers seem to think the same way (except *some* of the married ones). I’ll keep trying though. And although my wife doesn’t entirely understand my thinking, she definitely appreciates the effort.